Let’s get serious….just for a second then I promise, I will return to my normal goofy self.
Yesterday, I found out that friends of ours are separating after being together for 13 years. It shocked me. I mean mouth open just standing there staring kind of shock. Maybe it’s because I am a hopeless romantic and I want to believe that true loves last forever.
Everything about them made it seem like they were perfect for each other. They had the same hobbies, they went almost everywhere with each other, and did everything together. They are the kindest people you could ever meet. They are the kind of people who literally stopped their car when they noticed a spider on the dashboard and gently put it in the grass. A SPIDER PEOPLE!! And that’s a true story.
So naturally, I wondered how could this happen? What went wrong? When did being apart seem like a better idea then being together?
Just to be clear, I’m not judging them for their decision at all. They are doing what is best for them and who knows, maybe they are better off going down separate paths. I wish them the best regardless of if they are together or apart.
It did, however, make me take a step back and reflect on my own relationship. Is it the best it can be? How can we make it better? How can we make it last?
Relationships are hard work, add the stresses of everyday life and your lucky if your relationship lasts a day. Then you throw in the fairy tale endings that were drilled into our heads when we were kids and you just expect to find your one true love and live happily ever after. Is that really too much to ask?
I admit, I’m a hopeless romantic. I can’t help it. I cry at sappy movies, my heart melts when I catch my husband staring at me from across the room, I would cherish a hand written note from him over an expensive gift because I would know that it was written especially for me.
All that being said, I am also realistic. I think relationships that work are due to a mixture of trust/honesty, communication, a lot of hard work, topped off with an ample dusting of romance.
So that’s my two cents. What do you think? What makes your relationship strong? And remember….